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Non-Marriage Rites for Cohabitation set to pass at General Convention

Non-Marriage Rites for Cohabitation set to pass at General Convention

By David W. Virtue, DD
April 4, 2018

At the 2000 General Convention, the Episcopal Church passed resolution D039, which acknowledged relationships other than marriage, but characterized by fidelity, monogamy, mutual affection and something called "holy love" was overwhelmingly passed. A handful of bishops dissented.

Now, 18 years later, this summer's General Convention in Austin, Texas, delegates will be asked to pass yet another resolution proposing non-marriage rites as ways to minister (celebrate) cohabitants who live in monogamous relationships outside of marriage.

Cohabitation (aka) fornication, once ratified, will now be approved with its own rites.

The Episcopal Church will hit another new low in sexual behavior contrary to Scripture, history and reason. Having affirmed sodomy between consenting adults and canonically enshrined rites for same-sex marriage, the only sexual proclivities left is to reduce the age of consenting sex between men and boys and bestiality for millions of lonely Americans who find virtual reality insufficient for genuine encounter. Adultery is still officially proscribed, just ask Bishop Douglas Hahn, former Bishop of Lexington, who failed to admit he had an adulterous relationship long before he even became bishop.

General Convention's Task Force on the Study of Marriage is proposing a number of changes and additions to the Book of Common Prayer's marriage rites and definitions, as well as finding ways to minister to those, says a press release from the Episcopal News Service.

General Convention's Task Force on the Study of Marriage has made significant recommendations that would expand the Episcopal Church's decision to allow same-sex couples access to sacramental marriage, and it is also asking convention to look beyond marriage.

In its Blue Book Report, released April 3, the task force proposes to add to the "Enriching Our Worship" series two rites for blessing relationships. They are intended for couples that want to formalize their monogamous, unconditional and lifelong relationship, but not get married.

"The Witnessing and Blessing of a Lifelong Covenant" would be for use in jurisdictions of the Episcopal Church in which the couple desiring marriage is of the same sex and when the civil jurisdiction in which the marriage would occur does not allow marriage of same-sex people, the task force said.

A second new rite, "The Blessing of a Lifelong Relationship," is intended for couples who desire to formalize their monogamous, unconditional and lifelong relationships that are "something different than a marriage in that [they do] not include the merging of property, finances or other legal encumbrances." It could also be used by couples for whom the requirement to furnish identification to obtain a marriage license could result in legal penalties, including deportation because of immigration status, the task force said.

The rite "shall not be used for mere convenience," according to the proposed resolution.

Diocesan bishops would have to approve use of the rites and no member of the clergy would be required to officiate at such blessings.

A couple's desire to use the second rite might be prompted, the task force said, by the needs and rights of children of a former marriage; a need to maintain individuals' ability to uphold the financial obligations and commitments of their household; and a desire to maintain their ability to support themselves with shelter, food and health care, recognizing that a new marriage would cut off the benefits they receive from their former spouse, and if their subsequent marriage should end in death or divorce, they would be left without any pension or health care.

Younger members of the task force asked the group to consider how the church could develop pastoral resources that recognize the rising rate of U.S. adults who live in sexually intimate relationships other than marriage. The resources could include "spiritual practices, to aid individuals and couples in discerning their vocation to relationship, be it to singleness, celibacy, marriage and/or parenting," according to the resolution.

The resolution's explanation says that, in 2016, approximately 18 million U.S. adults were in cohabiting relationships, a 29 percent increase over a nine-year period. About 4.1 million of those people were age 50 and older.

When it comes to nuanced and sensitive guidance and teaching regarding sexual intimacy, many people feel largely alone, the task force said in its report, "having found the church's counsel to remain sexually abstinent outside of marriage insufficient and unreflective of their experience of the holy in relationship."

The resolution says that development of the resources would be guided by this statement: "Qualities of relationship that ground in faithfulness the expression of sexual intimacy include fidelity, monogamy, commitment, mutual affection, mutual respect, careful and honest communication, physical maturity, emotional maturity, mutual consent, and the holy love which enables those in intimate relationships to see in each other the image of God."

The Rev. Susan Russell, a task force member, told Episcopal News Service that passage of the resolution would be "a pretty radical step forward" but one that would acknowledge the couples who are involved in these sorts of relationships. "If the church has nothing to say to them, we're increasingly irrelevant," she added.

The presiding bishop and the president of the House of Deputies would appoint a new task force to develop the resources.

Task Force Chair, Joan Geiszler-Ludlum, said both the new rites and this latter proposal would be the church's way to help couples "elevate" their relationships "from just being casual or temporary."

"It's not marriage and it's not going to be marriage, but we want to recognize it for what it is, and then say that the couples need to be discerning about what they're doing with their relationship. We want to help them do that discernment."

There will be the standard disclaimer by an increasingly smaller group of orthodox bishops who will undoubtedly produce a gelded minority report, saying they won't go along with the resolution. But the truth is they have been neutered to the point of irrelevancy. The Episcopal Church will continue its Gadarene slide into the abyss with nothing and nobody to stop it, all in the name of inclusion and diversity, of course.


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